Saint Basil explains,\u00a0“While the mind is still easy to mold and as pliable as wax, taking the form of what is impressed upon it, it should be exercised from the very beginning in every good discipline. Then, when reason enters in and habits of choice develop, they will take their course from the first elements learned at the beginning and from traditional forms of piety, with reason proposing that which is beneficial, and habit imparting facility in right action.” (The Long Rules)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n There is a rhythm to our ecclesiastical year that involves participation from young and old alike. Within this rhythm we are taught not only about our faith but are also shown how to live it. This is the important part – we\u00a0need to incorporate living our faith in the manner in which we are capable of doing at that very moment. We\u00a0know our toddlers cannot say the words to our prayer before a meal, but regardless, they are learning the prayer as they listen to us saying it. Before you know it, they will eagerly start saying parts of the prayer with everyone else as they desire to be big stuff too! The learning happens within the context of daily life and you find that you never had to explicitly teach them word for word the prayers you regularly say as a family or the prayers \/ hymns they regularly hear at church.<\/p>\n \u201cTherefore, it is of paramount importance that the Orthodox Christian learning process begin from the very birth of the child.\u201d<\/p>\n \u2013 George Nicozisin,\u00a0The Road to Orthodox Phronema<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Here are some ideas when approaching Great Lent this year:<\/p>\n *As always, please talk to your parish priest or spiritual father for individual or family guidance. \u00a0These are simply ideas to discuss with your priest from one parent sharing her journey to the next parent.<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Every family will have their own unique circumstances when it comes to fasting – medical conditions, mom’s pregnant, financial situations, new to Orthodoxy, special needs children or family member, odd work hours, etc. \u00a0Keep this in mind, especially if you are at the beginning of your journey with fasting. \u00a0Make the transitions small and gradual for your children (and yourself, as the case may be) but always progressing towards the end goal.<\/p>\n You know your child best. \u00a0Think about where you and your family are at on your spiritual journey. \u00a0How much are you and your children fasting now? \u00a0What can your family do to take the next step forward this Lent? And please…seek guidance from your Father Confessor.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Part of fasting is learning discipline and self control – learning to tell ourselves we cannot have everything we desire. \u00a0This is especially important for children who tend to want everything that catches their eye. \u00a0Fasting teaches kids moderation as well as they need to be patient and wait for something. \u00a0It builds strength!\u00a0<\/p>\n Another part of fasting is spending less money on food and giving that money to those in need. \u00a0(The foods we are asked to abstain from have traditionally been the\u00a0expensive foods – meat, oil, dairy) \u00a0In this respect, substituting cow milk with non-dairy milk, which costs the same amount or more, negates our ability to give more to those in need.\u00a0 It’s not about finding substitutions in order to avoid going without our favorite foods. \u00a0It\u2019s about sacrifice. It’s not strictly about rules. (Although, they are there for a reason.) \u00a0It\u2019s about seeing the needs of others before your own wants and desires. \u00a0It’s about going without in order to give more.<\/p>\n Growing up, my parents had us put our OCMC mission boxes in the middle of our kitchen table and that is where we collected our money to give to others. \u00a0With my own children, we put a jar in the middle of our kitchen table and collect money throughout Lent. \u00a0We have given the money to various people and places throughout the years but it’s always been something we decide as a family. \u00a0We work towards a common goal during Lent and my kids know that in order to help others, we do not buy all of our favorite foods for awhile. \u00a0It’s all the more special for them on Pascha when they take that first bite of meat and chocolate.<\/p>\n Almsgiving is also about giving more of one’s time. Do grandma and grandpa need help with some yard work or cleaning because it’s hard for them to do themselves these days? Is there a shut-in in your parish? Bring your kids to visit them along with a coffee and dessert to share with this person. You would bring such joy to these people along with teaching your children about compassion and kindness!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n I talk about prayer within our family in greater detail here<\/a>. \u00a0It was a presentation I gave for a webinar several years ago.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n My spiritual father once told me, “You need to start where you\u2019re at. \u00a0If making the sign of the cross before you go to bed is all you can do, then that\u2019s where you start. \u00a0Don\u2019t compare yourself to others. \u00a0Start \u2013 now \u2013 and move forward.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n I fully understand that it can be hard taking little ones to church sometimes. \u00a0From this mom who was determined to bring five boys under the age of five (four of them with special needs!) to church every Sunday – even when my husband was on business trips – I get how difficult it can be sometimes!!!<\/em> \u00a0I do.<\/p>\n But…every Sunday morning, I’d hear my mom’s words whispering in my ear, “Kids learn to be in church by being in church.” \u00a0Those beginning years were rough, but with time…my boys learned to be engaged in the service more often than with each other.<\/p>\n During Lent, my husband and I\u00a0decide which extra services we’re going to attend as a family. \u00a0What are your goals this Lent? \u00a0Attend one Lenten service with your kids? \u00a0Attend one of each of the different services? \u00a0Attend one service each week? \u00a0Attend one Holy Week service? \u00a0Attend all of the evening Holy Week services? \u00a0Attend all of Holy Friday and Pascha?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n As a child, I vividly remember sitting in the back of the church with my mom and brothers as we watched my dad from afar going to confession in the front of the church, as we each waited quietly for our own turn.<\/p>\n There’s something about seeing your parents with watery eyes and beaming smiles on their faces as they walk towards you after confession. \u00a0There’s something about going together as a family – knowing that you are participating in something your parents find important. \u00a0There’s something about going home and savoring the joy amongst everyone in your family.<\/p>\n \u201cThe religious education of children is mainly brought about by example, and by the atmosphere of love and prayer in the home.\u201d<\/p>\n \u2013 Sister Magdalen,\u00a0Children in the Church Today<\/i><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n \u201cYou can only teach that which you have made your own\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n \u2013 Sophie Koulomzin,\u00a0Our Church & Our Children<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" [et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section” _builder_version=”3.22″][et_pb_row admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”3.25″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.25″ custom_padding=”|||” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” _builder_version=”3.27.4″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”] I’ve heard many times over the years, “It’s too hard for my kids” when someone brings up the topic of fasting and children. Let’s consider for a moment our children’s education. \u00a0I don’t know of any\u00a0parent who […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4115,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"I've heard many times over the years, \"It's too hard for my kids\" when someone brings up the topic of fasting and children. Let's consider for a moment our children's education. \u00a0I don't know of any\u00a0parent who would present a college math textbook to their toddler and expect them to be able to work the problems in the book - let alone with perfection. \u00a0We all understand that higher level math is beyond the abilities of a small child, but at the same time it doesn't mean that we hold off on teaching our children math concepts. \u00a0We have a goal and through the years we feed them little bits at a time in order to help them make progress towards that goal. \u00a0Many of us will start out by counting snaps on a onesie in an attempt to calm a squirming baby as we re-dress them. \u00a0As they get older, we count aloud the steps on a set of stairs as we help them learn to go up and down them.\u00a0\u00a0Later we'll have them hold up their fingers showing their age and listen to them as they mimic us counting out loud. \u00a0Math is a part of our children's lives from a very young age. \u00a0We wouldn't dream of limiting our children to stories about mathematicians, letting them put together puzzles about math,\u00a0completing crossword puzzles of math definitions, let them explore and play with manipulatives, bring them to watch mathematicians completing equations and then consider our children prepared for taking a college entrance exam or even prepared for life on their own. \u00a0Are any of these efforts wrong in and of themselves? \u00a0No. \u00a0Are these methods alone going to enable them to reach the goal of understanding AND being able to solve an equation on their own? \u00a0Probably not.\r\n\r\nWhat is the key difference? \u00a0Participation. Think of how much prep we do with them before we even begin to think about introducing the simplest of equations to them. We guide our children\u00a0through ever increasingly more difficult levels of math and then we explain to them how to work an equation when the time is right. \u00a0We start off by teaching them how to solve simple equations on their own such as 2 + 2 = 4.\u00a0\u00a0Holding off on teaching math through participation simply because the end goal is too difficult for young children is only going to make learning math harder for our child in the long run. \u00a0Can you imagine our child sitting down in a college classroom and the professor asking why the student cannot complete the simplest of equations? \u00a0Our child would respond, \"Well...I've been around math all my life but I've never actually tried working on or completing any math problems. My parents thought it would be too hard for me, so they told me to wait until I was older.\" \u00a0The \"catch up\" factor for our children would be overwhelming!\r\n\r\nThe same is true about teaching our children to be Orthodox Christians. \u00a0If we do not introduce them to living their faith from a young age, it will become increasingly foreign and overwhelming to them as they get older. \u00a0There is a rhythm to our ecclesiastical year that involves participation from young and old alike. \u00a0Within this rhythm we are taught not only about our faith but are also shown how to live it. \u00a0This is the important part - we\u00a0need to live our faith every single day in the manner in which we are capable of at that very moment.\r\n\n
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<\/a>Fasting:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
<\/a>Almsgiving:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/a>Prayer:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
<\/a>Attending Church Services:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/a>Holy Confession:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n
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\u201cTherefore, it is of paramount importance that the Orthodox Christian learning process begin from the very birth of the child.\u201d\r\n\r\n\u2013 George Nicozisin,\u00a0The Road to Orthodox Phronema<\/em><\/blockquote>\r\nHere are some ideas when approaching Great Lent this year:\r\n\r\n*As always, please talk to your parish priest or spiritual father for individual or family guidance. \u00a0These are simply ideas to discuss with your priest from one parent sharing her journey to the next parent.<\/em>\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n
<\/a>Fasting:<\/strong>\r\n\r\nEvery family will have their own unique circumstances when it comes to fasting - medical conditions, mom's pregnant, financial situations, new to Orthodoxy, special needs children or family member, odd work hours, etc. \u00a0Keep this in mind, especially if you are at the beginning of your journey with fasting. \u00a0Make the transitions small and gradual for your children (and yourself, as the case may be) but always progressing towards the end goal.\r\n\r\n \t
<\/a>Almsgiving:<\/strong>\r\n\r\nPart of fasting is learning discipline and self control - learning to tell ourselves we cannot have everything we desire. \u00a0This is especially important for children who tend to want everything that catches their eye. \u00a0Fasting teaches kids moderation as well as they need to be patient and wait for something. \u00a0It builds strength!\r\n\r\nAnother part of fasting is spending less money on food and giving that money to those in need. \u00a0(The foods we are asked to abstain from have traditionally been the\u00a0expensive foods - meat, oil, dairy) \u00a0In this respect, substituting cow milk with non-dairy milk, which costs the same amount or more, negates our ability to give more to those in need.\u00a0 It's not about finding substitutions in order to avoid going without our favorite foods. \u00a0It\u2019s about sacrifice. It's not strictly about rules. (Although, they are there for a reason.) \u00a0It\u2019s about seeing the needs of others before your own wants and desires. \u00a0It's about going without in order to give more.\r\n\r\nGrowing up, my parents had us put our OCMC mission boxes in the middle of our kitchen table and that is where we collected our money to give to others. \u00a0With my own children, we put a jar in the middle of our kitchen table and collect money throughout Lent. \u00a0We have given the money to various people and places throughout the years but it's always been something we decide as a family. \u00a0We work towards a common goal during Lent and my kids know that in order to help others, we do not buy all of our favorite foods for awhile. \u00a0It's all the more special for them on Pascha when they take that first bite of meat and chocolate.\r\n\r\nAlmsgiving is also about giving more of one's time. Do grandma and grandpa need help with some yard work or cleaning because it's hard for them to do themselves these days? Is there a shut-in in your parish? Bring your kids to visit them along with a coffee and dessert to share with this person. You would bring such joy to these people along with teaching your children about compassion and kindness!\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n<\/a>Prayer:<\/strong>\r\n\r\nI talk about prayer within our family in greater detail here<\/a>. \u00a0It was a presentation I gave for a webinar several years ago.\r\n\r\nMy spiritual father once told me, \"You need to start where you\u2019re at. \u00a0If making the sign of the cross before you go to bed is all you can do, then that\u2019s where you start. \u00a0Don\u2019t compare yourself to others. \u00a0Start \u2013 now \u2013 and move forward.\u201d\r\n\r\n \t
<\/a>Attending Church Services:\u00a0<\/strong>\r\n\r\nI fully understand that it can be hard taking little ones to church sometimes. \u00a0From this mom who was determined to bring five boys under the age of five (four of them with special needs!) to church every Sunday - even when my husband was on business trips - I get how difficult it can be sometimes!!!<\/em> \u00a0I do.\r\n\r\nBut...every Sunday morning, I'd hear my mom's words whispering in my ear, \"Kids learn to be in church by being in church.\" \u00a0Those beginning years were rough, but with time...my boys learned to be engaged in the service more often than with each other.\r\n\r\nDuring Lent, my husband and I\u00a0decide which extra services we're going to attend as a family. \u00a0What are your goals this Lent? \u00a0Attend one Lenten service with your kids? \u00a0Attend one of each of the different services? \u00a0Attend one service each week? \u00a0Attend one Holy Week service? \u00a0Attend all of the evening Holy Week services? \u00a0Attend all of Holy Friday and Pascha?\r\n\r\n \r\n\r\n<\/a>Holy Confession:<\/strong>\r\n\r\nAs a child, I vividly remember sitting in the back of the church with my mom and brothers as we watched my dad from afar going to confession in the front of the church, as we each waited quietly for our own turn.\r\n\r\nThere's something about seeing your parents with watery eyes and beaming smiles on their faces as they walk towards you after confession. \u00a0There's something about going together as a family - knowing that you are participating in something your parents find important. \u00a0There's something about going home and savoring the joy amongst everyone in your family.\r\n\u201cThe religious education of children is mainly brought about by example, and by the atmosphere of love and prayer in the home.\u201d\r\n\r\n\u2013 Sister Magdalen,\u00a0Children in the Church Today<\/i><\/blockquote>\r\n
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